Bars and Clubs – Art of Attracting Men
A lot of women like to go to bars and clubs to loosen up, show off, and meet single men. So it’s an obvious choice if you’re a gal looking for a boyfriend. However, the obvious choice may not be the best choice.
Here are the pros and cons of meeting (or trying to meet) men at bars and clubs:
Pros: There are lots of people and it’s an exciting, fun atmosphere. It’s easy to buy a guy a drink, and it’s easier to get up close to a guy without knowing him first. You might be able to meet a lot of men in a short period of time, and they will probably assume that you don’t want an exclusive relationship.
Cons: Bars and clubs are noisy, so it’s more difficult to hear anything a guy says to you. Alcohol might cloud your judgment and cause you to do something stupid that leaves a bad first impression.
The men you’ll meet: Most likely, you’ll meet very outgoing, friendly men who love the noise and the party atmosphere. You might also come across some men desperate for an overnight companion, who are willing to tell whatever lies they need to, in order to improve their chances. And it’s pretty likely you’ll also find some men whose lives are a mess. They can’t stand going home and facing it, so instead they’re out having a good time.
The relationship you can expect: Casual and short. Most men at bars and clubs don’t want a long-term or even mid-term relationship. There’s not much opportunity to talk and get to know each other, so you don’t have much of a basis to really get attached to each other, either. For fun, you’re probably going to more bars and clubs.
What to avoid: Desperate, careless, and/or bitter men. The desperate man will approach you first and try to hang onto you longer than you’re willing to deal with. The careless man might have addictions, neglected children at home, or a bad financial situation that you could unknowingly get tangled up in. And the bitter guys are still complaining about the last gal who left them single, and they’ll complain about you, too.
Bottom line: Don’t go to a bar or a club only in order to meet men. If you like clubs, such as to go dancing, that’s different – but if you don’t, don’t bother.